{"id":1640,"date":"2015-12-15T15:37:53","date_gmt":"2015-12-15T15:37:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/?p=1640"},"modified":"2016-05-11T12:53:34","modified_gmt":"2016-05-11T12:53:34","slug":"the-seven-deadly-sins-of-a-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/the-seven-deadly-sins-of-a-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"The Seven Deadly Sins of a Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

No one can really claim to be an expert in relationships, we’re all learning and taking it one step at a time. But for most of us who’ve been in a several successful and failed relationships, lessons of course have been learnt.<\/p>\n

So here are the seven deadly sins of a relationships, if you \u00a0can avoid these seven things you should have a strong relationship.<\/p>\n

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  1. Resentment<\/strong>. This is a poison that starts as something small (\u201cHe didn\u2019t get a new roll of toilet paper\u201d or \u201cShe doesn\u2019t wash her dishes after she eats\u201d) and builds up into something big. Resentment is dangerous because it often flies under our radar, so that we don\u2019t even notice we have the resentment, and our partner doesn\u2019t realise that there\u2019s anything wrong.<\/li>\n
  2. Jealousy<\/strong>. It\u2019s hard to control jealousy if you feel it, \u00a0It seems to happen by itself, out of our control, unbidden and unwanted. However, jealousy, like resentment, is relationship poison. A little jealousy is fine, but when it gets to a certain level it turns into a need to control your partner, and turns into unnecessary fights, and makes both parties unhappy.<\/li>\n
  3. Unrealistic expectations<\/strong>. Often we have an idea of what our partner should be like. We might expect them to clean up after themselves, to be considerate, to always think of us first, to surprise us, to support us, to always have a smile, to work hard and not be lazy. \u00a0Having some expectations is fine \u2014 we should expect our partner to be faithful, for example. But sometimes, without realising it ourselves, we have expectations that are too high to meet. Our partner isn\u2019t perfect \u2014 no one is. We can\u2019t expect them to be cheerful and loving every minute of the day \u2014 everyone has their moods. We can\u2019t expect them to always think of us, as they will obviously think of themselves or others sometimes too. The remedy is to lower your expectations \u2014 allow your partner to be himself\/herself, and accept and love them for that.<\/li>\n
  4. Not making time<\/strong>. This is a problem with couples who have kids, but also with other couples who get caught up in work or hobbies or friends and family or other passions. Couples who don\u2019t spend time alone together will drift apart. And when you\u2019re together, make an effort to connect, not just be together.<\/li>\n
  5. Lack of communication<\/strong>. This sin affects all the others on this list \u2014 it\u2019s been said many times before, but it\u2019s true: good communication is the cornerstone of a good relationship.<\/li>\n
  6. Not showing gratitude<\/strong>. Sometimes there are no real problems in a relationship, such as resentment or jealousy or unrealistic expectations \u2014 but there is also no expression of the good things about your partner either. This lack of gratitude and appreciation is just as bad as the problems, because without it your partner will feel like he or she is being taken for granted.<\/li>\n
  7. Lack of affection<\/strong>. Similarly, everything else can be going right, including the expression of gratitude, but if there is no affection among partners then there is serious trouble. In effect, the relationship is drifting towards a platonic status. That might be better than many relationships that have serious problems, but it\u2019s not a good thing. Affection is important \u2013everyone needs some of it, especially from someone we love.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    Is there anything you would add to the list? Tweet us @UrbanSocialCom to join in the conversation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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