{"id":2845,"date":"2017-11-09T15:01:36","date_gmt":"2017-11-09T15:01:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/?p=2845"},"modified":"2017-11-10T09:20:20","modified_gmt":"2017-11-10T09:20:20","slug":"8-things-women-wish-guys-did-on-a-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/8-things-women-wish-guys-did-on-a-first-date\/","title":{"rendered":"8 Things Women Wish Guys Did on a First Date"},"content":{"rendered":"

Excellent work – you\u2019ve impressed your chosen woman enough to arrange that first date meet up. But the face to face date can be a whole new ball game for single guys wanting to make the right impression. For example, if you hold a chair out for your date, will she be impressed, or will she think she can do it perfectly well herself? Will you talk too much or not enough? Getting it right can seem like a lot of pressure, but overthinking it could turn your first date into a dreaded event!<\/p>\n

8 Things Women Wish Guys Did on a First Date<\/h1>\n

Fear not. Some first date advice for the guys is here… The top 8 things women wish guys did on a first date. Implementing these into your first date encounter should put you in a great position for moving to that second date. The first date tips will also make it a much more enjoyable time for both of you, whether or not they are your perfect match.<\/p>\n

1. First Date Compliments \u2013 Sincere Ones<\/h2>\n

This has to be the first of 8 things women wish guys did on a first date. Women expect you to say something complimentary to get the first date off on the right tone. However, women are very good at spotting when a date compliment is fake and when you really mean it.<\/p>\n

A sincere comment that you\u2019ve thought about and taken the time to notice is much better than the knee jerk fake compliments that often get delivered early on. So take some time to look at your date first, and find something you like about them and then compliment her on it. Say it like you mean it with eye contact and some enthusiasm in your voice, or it will be wasted.<\/p>\n

2. Ask Questions & Listen to the Answers<\/h2>\n

According to a study by Harvard University<\/a>, the chance of getting a second date increases dramatically when daters take the time to ask questions about their date.<\/p>\n

Asking a question and then looking away, checking your phone and not really listening to the answer won\u2019t win you any points. It\u2019s all about eye contact, engaging with your female date and responding with more interested questions. That way you will make your first date feel that you are interested in her, and that you have some good social skills too. Spending too much time talking about yourself is a real turn-off.<\/p>\n

3. First Date Chivalry (it’s not dead)<\/h2>\n

Although single women want you to think that they\u2019re independent and can do things for themselves, they still like some form of chivalry on a first date. You don\u2019t need to go overboard, but opening a door or pulling out a chair definitely wins you a few points. It says a lot about you, how you were brought up and demonstrates a caring nature towards women. Yes women are independent, and can get on fine without you, but when they\u2019re finding a potential partner, they\u2019re still looking for someone who is going to care and protect them.<\/p>\n

4. Put your Phone Away<\/h2>\n

Unless you want a date that receives \u2018that emergency call\u2019 during your date, or goes to the toilet never to return, put your phone away.
\nIt doesn\u2019t need to be on the table, and certainly shouldn\u2019t be used for checking the latest football scores or your friends latest post. Women on a first date expect your full attention. Anything less is just plain rude and gives off the impression you aren\u2019t interested.
\nThe motto is\u2026 if you want to make it through your first date, the phone can wait. (a sneaky check while in the toilet or at the bar however is not a sack-able offence).<\/p>\n

5. Forget Putting on a Front<\/h2>\n

Not the napkin down your shirt kind of front, those conversations where you aren\u2019t really acting like you.
\nWhether that\u2019s bragging about how many weights you can lift, how many modelling auditions you\u2019ve had or the how many dates you\u2019ve been on in the last month. Save it, we\u2019re really not interested in that sort of stuff.
\nWomen on a first date want a real conversation about a topic that\u2019s a little deeper \u2013 one that reveals something more about the real you. The real stuff counts – that\u2019s what women want to hear about. Travels, achievements, disappointments, family, aspirations. All that sort of stuff. Don\u2019t try and impress with your gym routine or the fact you wrestled that shark on holiday.<\/p>\n

6. First Date – Going Dutch<\/h2>\n

Not all women want a guy to pay for the first date \u2013 women are earners and like to pay their own way. However, they probably appreciate the offer. If your date offers to pay her way, feel free to make your best judgement call. Sometimes it works well if one pays for a round of drinks instead, or you go elsewhere for a pudding or a nightcap.
\nHowever, if you find your date ordering Oysters, Caviar and Champagne, it\u2019s well worth dropping into the conversation that you\u2019ll be going Dutch!<\/p>\n

7. Don\u2019t Say You\u2019ll Call \u2013 and Then Don\u2019t<\/h2>\n

If the first date doesn\u2019t work out for whatever reason, the last thing women want is for you to say you\u2019ll call if you\u2019ve no intention of doing so. Women would much rather you were upfront, and had that First Dates studio conversation \u2013 \u2018Would you like to see each other again?\u2019
\nIt\u2019s much easier to move on if it\u2019s clear that the feeling wasn\u2019t mutual, the spark wasn\u2019t there or you didn\u2019t like that they had 3 cats. Being open and honest, allows women to move on instead of wondering why you never called, or what went wrong. So man up and be honest.<\/p>\n

8. Be Upfront About the Kind of Relationship You Want<\/h2>\n

Here\u2019s some news for you guys \u2013 you don\u2019t all have to make out that you\u2019re looking for a long-term relationship! A lot of guys seem to go on a first date believing that a girl wants a long-term relationship and that she\u2019s checking out the guy to see if he\u2019s marriage and babies material.
\nThat may be the case for some women \u2013 but not all. While some may be looking for something more serious, others may want a more casual dating arrangement from their first date. The only way to find this one out is to have that conversation.<\/p>\n

These 8 things women wish guys did on a first date are much more likely to land you with a second date. Or at the very least, will have made sure you had an enjoyable first date and if it’s not to be, you can both move on and start planning the next one. How do you think these compare to what guys wish women did on a first date? <\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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