{"id":3200,"date":"2018-08-30T15:00:39","date_gmt":"2018-08-30T14:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/?p=3200"},"modified":"2018-09-25T10:32:19","modified_gmt":"2018-09-25T09:32:19","slug":"what-not-to-say-on-a-first-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/what-not-to-say-on-a-first-date\/","title":{"rendered":"What NOT to Say On A First Date"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>First dates. We\u2019ve all been there, whether it\u2019s a blind date, set-up-by-your-friends date or a first date you\u2019ve lined up from your own\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\">online dating<\/a> efforts. A first date can be stressful enough without wishing you hadn&#8217;t opened your big mouth and said something that went down like a lead balloon. The art of knowing what not to say on a first date however, can be easier than you think.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes a first date can feel like a job interview. The introduction, some nervous laughter, some pauses in conversation and thinking about the best way to say things to make that good impression. There\u2019s always a possibility you\u2019ll say a couple of things you really wish you hadn\u2019t. But knowing what not to say on a first date, just like a job interview is a great first step to having a good experience.<\/p>\n<p>Scottish comedian <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bbc.co.uk\/programmes\/p0643nww\">Nicki Bell<\/a> gives us her opinion on what not to say on a first date. Watch her lighthearted 30 second blog about what not to say on a first date. See if you agree!<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"What Not To Say on a First Date\" width=\"640\" height=\"480\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/jyzxKpFZWVw?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h2><strong>\u00a0What Not to Say On A First Date Topics<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Giving off the best impression of yourself is the aim of the game on your first date. Here\u2019s our top tips on the areas of conversation that you should avoid at all costs.<strong><br \/>\n<\/strong><\/p>\n<h4><strong>Your Ex<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>As Nicki says: \u201cDon\u2019t talk about your ex! Your date doesn\u2019t want to hear it.\u201d It\u2019s true that one of the biggest turn offs on a first date is hearing someone talk about the last date or their past relationships. Leave the ex chat well alone on your first date, and focus on what\u2019s in front of you.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>Your Job<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>While it can be interesting to know what your date does for a living, keep it simple. At this stage your first date doesn\u2019t want to know the exact details of your job role, how long you\u2019ve been working your way up the ladder or how technical your job is. By all means make it sound interesting, but don\u2019t go on and on.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>Marriage and the Future<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>First dates are about finding out about each other. So talking about how you\u2019d like to get married one day, have kids and live in the countryside is probably fine. But the key is to stay vague about these things on your first date. What not to say on a first date would be that you&#8217;ve found the ideal wedding venue, and know the names of your three kids and dog. Your date is likely to run a mile!<\/p>\n<h4><strong>Work or Home Drama<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>Save talking about the dramas in your life be they at home or at work on your first date. Problems or gossip aren&#8217;t going to interest your date, and are likely to add negative vibes into the date. It&#8217;s a topic of conversation that can be left for a few more dates down the line, when you&#8217;re more in the comfort zone with each other.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>The Collective \u2018We\u2019<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>While it\u2019s sometimes a boost to think your date thinks highly enough of you already to be talking about the future, the \u2018we\u2019 statements if used too much, can actually be a turn off. Too much suggestive talk about the collective \u2018we\u2019 \u2013 we should go on holiday, we should get a dog &#8211; is grounds for making your date feel uncomfortable if they&#8217;re still making up their mind about you. If you want to stand a good chance of getting to date number two, the collective &#8216;we&#8217; is definitely a top example of what not to say on a first date.<\/p>\n<h4><strong>Sexual Preferences<\/strong><\/h4>\n<p>A first date isn\u2019t the arena to start talking about sex. Everyone knows that if all goes well, at some point, it&#8217;s likely to feature, but for many first daters, talking about sex too early on is just a put-off and can give off the wrong impression. Hold off and save the sex chat and what you\u2019re into for later on!<\/p>\n<p>Remember your first date is all about putting across the best version of you. Have fun, be confident, engaging, interested, and happy, be you, enjoy and leave the above topics of conversation<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>First dates. We\u2019ve all been there, whether it\u2019s a blind date, set-up-by-your-friends date or a first date you\u2019ve lined up from your own\u00a0online dating efforts. 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