{"id":3654,"date":"2021-06-28T13:33:18","date_gmt":"2021-06-28T12:33:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/?p=3654"},"modified":"2021-06-28T13:33:18","modified_gmt":"2021-06-28T12:33:18","slug":"5-rules-stick-dating-30s","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dating in your 30\u2019s comes with different challenges to any other dating decade in your life. You\u2019re social circle might be dwindling, you’ve got fewer single friends to go out with, you\u2019ve got past experiences nagging at you, and you\u2019re watching the clock ticking.\u00a0 Knowing how to make a real go of it might feel like an uphill battle. But it doesn’t have to be. On the plus side, you\u2019ve probably got a much better idea of who you are, who you\u2019re looking for, and who to avoid. If you’re finding yourself back in the dating game again, here’s our top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t Panic and Settle<\/b><\/h2>\n

No matter how panicked you might be that you\u2019re still single in your 30s, settling is not the way to go. Don\u2019t fall into the trap of finding the first person, it needs to be the right person. It can be easy to worry that time is slipping by and the clock is ticking. That should be a solid enough reason to not waste time on settling for a relationship that is unlikely to last.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Being single in your 30s should mean you have a much better idea of what you are looking for in a partner. Make sure you know what things are important to you. This doesn\u2019t mean writing a long tick box list for your ideal partner to fit into. It means having a clear idea of what you\u2019re looking for, what you are prepared to compromise on, and what are the 100% deal breakers. Are you happy to date a single parent<\/a>, someone who has been divorced, someone who doesn’t live permanently in this country? If you find yourself dating a person that hits your deal breakers, have the confidence to cut your losses and move on.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

2. Shift Out Of Your Comfort Zone<\/b><\/h2>\n

It can be easy to fall into a routine in your 30s, with work, friendships, your eating habits and exercise schedule.\u00a0 Many of us naturally gravitate to our comfort zones as we get older. This is partly the reason why singles over 30 find it harder to meet new people. It\u2019s important to keep challenging yourself as we get older, and keep new opportunities coming our way in all areas of our life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Just as you might choose to overhaul your menu plan for the week, or change up your exercise plan, you should do the same with your dating efforts. Join a dating site for singles over 30<\/a>, head along to a local dating event for over 30s, try hanging out in a new bar, or go to a social event you\u2019d previously have declined an invite to. Shifting yourself out of your comfort zone is key to making new opportunities for yourself.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

3. Set Your Expectations\u00a0<\/b><\/h2>\n

Whether it\u2019s your hopes and dreams of who your ideal partner is, how many scorecard matches you\u2019ll get from a speed dating event or how well your first date will go, it\u2019s important to set realistic expectations. Dating at any age takes some navigating, with plenty of curveballs, unexpected and inexplicable situations cropping up.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be tempted to get carried away with your expectations or dreams when you\u2019re dating in your 30s. It\u2019s important to be able to bounce back from any disappointments and knocks. Adopting a positive mindset that enables you to not lose faith and give up on dating is important.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

4. Forget The Games<\/b><\/h2>\n

We\u2019ve all been there at some point in our dating lives. Did what we thought were the best tactics to keep someone interested by acting cool, not looking too keen, playing the various dating games we all think can make all the difference. While these might have fun to experiment with in our teens or our early twenties, they hold no place with older singles. In fact anyone playing games when dating in your 30s or 40s should signal alarm bells instantly.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Dating in your 30s and beyond only succeeds when adults behave like grown-ups. There is no place for game playing at this age. If you want to call or text someone, do it. If they like you, they will be just as responsive. If you\u2019re worried that you\u2019ll scare them away, it\u2019s probably not going to go anywhere anyway.<\/span><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t Make Dating An Ordeal\u00a0<\/b><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s true that dating takes a certain amount of resilience. Knock backs and rejection hurts any single at any age. It can be easy to become so fearful of these outcomes, that it taints our approach to dating, which in itself can lead the outcome we most fear.\u00a0 Whatever your dating history, and whatever your age, dating should be something we approach with a positive attitude. Cynicism that whoever you might will ghost you, be hiding another relationship, or be in it for something else will never allow you the freedom to see potential dates for what they really are.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve become overwhelmed with online dating in your 30s, take a break, try a different dating site, read through dating advice when dating online. Or try something else. Go to a dating event, find ways to meet new people that you don\u2019t view as an ordeal. At the end of the day it doesn\u2019t really matter how you date, as long as you do. So go with whatever you feel most confident doing, and keep an open positive mind.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Dating in your 30\u2019s comes with different challenges to any other dating decade in your life. You\u2019re social circle might be dwindling, you’ve got fewer single friends to go out with, you\u2019ve got past experiences nagging at you, and you\u2019re watching the clock ticking.\u00a0 Knowing how to make a real go of it might feel […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3660,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[635],"tags":[850,852,851],"class_list":["post-3654","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating","tag-dating-in-your-30s","tag-dating-site-for-30s","tag-single-in-your-30s"],"yoast_head":"\r\n5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s - Urbansocial Dating Blog<\/title>\r\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Dating in your 30s comes with its own set of challenges. Leading dating site UrbanSocial gives its top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.\" \/>\r\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\r\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s - Urbansocial Dating Blog\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Dating in your 30s comes with its own set of challenges. Leading dating site UrbanSocial gives its top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"Urbansocial Dating Blog\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2021-06-28T12:33:18+00:00\" \/>\r\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain-1024x683.jpg\" \/>\r\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1024\" \/>\r\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"683\" \/>\r\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\r\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"urbansocial\" \/>\r\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\r\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"urbansocial\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"5 minutes\" \/>\r\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/\",\"name\":\"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s - Urbansocial Dating Blog\",\"isPartOf\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#website\"},\"primaryImageOfPage\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#primaryimage\"},\"image\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#primaryimage\"},\"thumbnailUrl\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain.jpg\",\"datePublished\":\"2021-06-28T12:33:18+00:00\",\"dateModified\":\"2021-06-28T12:33:18+00:00\",\"author\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/c37321fecc069c50dfaeaf5c76fbdd13\"},\"description\":\"Dating in your 30s comes with its own set of challenges. Leading dating site UrbanSocial gives its top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.\",\"breadcrumb\":{\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#breadcrumb\"},\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"ReadAction\",\"target\":[\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/\"]}]},{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#primaryimage\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain.jpg\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain.jpg\",\"width\":5000,\"height\":3334,\"caption\":\"Dating in your 30s\"},{\"@type\":\"BreadcrumbList\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#breadcrumb\",\"itemListElement\":[{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":1,\"name\":\"Home\",\"item\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/\"},{\"@type\":\"ListItem\",\"position\":2,\"name\":\"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s\"}]},{\"@type\":\"WebSite\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#website\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/\",\"name\":\"Urbansocial Dating Blog\",\"description\":\"Urbansocial Dating and Single Life Blog\",\"potentialAction\":[{\"@type\":\"SearchAction\",\"target\":{\"@type\":\"EntryPoint\",\"urlTemplate\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}\"},\"query-input\":{\"@type\":\"PropertyValueSpecification\",\"valueRequired\":true,\"valueName\":\"search_term_string\"}}],\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\"},{\"@type\":\"Person\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/c37321fecc069c50dfaeaf5c76fbdd13\",\"name\":\"urbansocial\",\"image\":{\"@type\":\"ImageObject\",\"inLanguage\":\"en-US\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/93a557298647afebf54538f4ef637e50?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"contentUrl\":\"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/93a557298647afebf54538f4ef637e50?s=96&d=mm&r=g\",\"caption\":\"urbansocial\"},\"url\":\"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/author\/urbansocial\/\"}]}<\/script>\r\n<!-- \/ Yoast SEO plugin. -->","yoast_head_json":{"title":"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s - Urbansocial Dating Blog","description":"Dating in your 30s comes with its own set of challenges. Leading dating site UrbanSocial gives its top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.","robots":{"index":"index","follow":"follow","max-snippet":"max-snippet:-1","max-image-preview":"max-image-preview:large","max-video-preview":"max-video-preview:-1"},"canonical":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/","og_locale":"en_US","og_type":"article","og_title":"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s - Urbansocial Dating Blog","og_description":"Dating in your 30s comes with its own set of challenges. Leading dating site UrbanSocial gives its top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.","og_url":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/","og_site_name":"Urbansocial Dating Blog","article_published_time":"2021-06-28T12:33:18+00:00","og_image":[{"width":1024,"height":683,"url":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain-1024x683.jpg","type":"image\/jpeg"}],"author":"urbansocial","twitter_card":"summary_large_image","twitter_misc":{"Written by":"urbansocial","Est. reading time":"5 minutes"},"schema":{"@context":"https:\/\/schema.org","@graph":[{"@type":"WebPage","@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/","url":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/","name":"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s - Urbansocial Dating Blog","isPartOf":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#website"},"primaryImageOfPage":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#primaryimage"},"image":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#primaryimage"},"thumbnailUrl":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain.jpg","datePublished":"2021-06-28T12:33:18+00:00","dateModified":"2021-06-28T12:33:18+00:00","author":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/c37321fecc069c50dfaeaf5c76fbdd13"},"description":"Dating in your 30s comes with its own set of challenges. Leading dating site UrbanSocial gives its top 5 rules to stick to when dating in your 30s.","breadcrumb":{"@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#breadcrumb"},"inLanguage":"en-US","potentialAction":[{"@type":"ReadAction","target":["https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/"]}]},{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#primaryimage","url":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain.jpg","contentUrl":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/06\/couple-in-rain.jpg","width":5000,"height":3334,"caption":"Dating in your 30s"},{"@type":"BreadcrumbList","@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/5-rules-stick-dating-30s\/#breadcrumb","itemListElement":[{"@type":"ListItem","position":1,"name":"Home","item":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/"},{"@type":"ListItem","position":2,"name":"5 Rules To Stick To When Dating In Your 30s"}]},{"@type":"WebSite","@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#website","url":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/","name":"Urbansocial Dating Blog","description":"Urbansocial Dating and Single Life Blog","potentialAction":[{"@type":"SearchAction","target":{"@type":"EntryPoint","urlTemplate":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/?s={search_term_string}"},"query-input":{"@type":"PropertyValueSpecification","valueRequired":true,"valueName":"search_term_string"}}],"inLanguage":"en-US"},{"@type":"Person","@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/c37321fecc069c50dfaeaf5c76fbdd13","name":"urbansocial","image":{"@type":"ImageObject","inLanguage":"en-US","@id":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/#\/schema\/person\/image\/","url":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/93a557298647afebf54538f4ef637e50?s=96&d=mm&r=g","contentUrl":"https:\/\/secure.gravatar.com\/avatar\/93a557298647afebf54538f4ef637e50?s=96&d=mm&r=g","caption":"urbansocial"},"url":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/author\/urbansocial\/"}]}},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3654"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3654"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3654\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3662,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3654\/revisions\/3662"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3660"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3654"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3654"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.urbansocial.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3654"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}