What to do when your family & friends dislike your partner

January 29, 2016 BY Rachael Phillips | Advice

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You may have seen that Rob Kardashian is causing a bit of a stir within his family because they don’t approve of who he’s dating. We’ve all been there, when our families and friends have had their doubts about the person we are seeing, but when we’re in a relationship – especially at the start – it’s hard to remove the rose tinted specs and understand why they feel that way.

They say love conquers all but if your family are down on the one you love, here are 5 tips to cope with that…

Think about it. We aren’t suggesting that you ditch your partner the first time that your friends or family start having doubts but seriously, do think about it objectively. Sometimes there’s a good reason why people don’t like your partner – be open and honest with them and find out what the problem is so that you can understand whether they have genuine concerns.

Express your concerns. Once you’ve got all the concerns out in the open, now is the time to make your feelings clear to your family. Take the time to explain to them how this is making you feel and alleviate any concerns they may have.

Think about past behaviour. Is this the first time that your family and friends have said they don’t like one of your boyfriends? Do they often react badly to people you date? Think about their reaction to past relationships and think about what’s different now.

Talk about it. It’s very likely that your partner is aware that your friends or family aren’t their biggest fan. It’s important not to ignore this fact. Talk to your partner about it and take the time to reassure them that it doesn’t change how you feel and that you believe in your relationship.

Compromise. Think about how you’re going to move forward, including family gatherings or special events. You can’t pick one side over the other so try to compromise when it comes to these times. Talk to both sides, try to encourage they interact in a positive manner.

Dealing with family and friends not liking your partner is a difficult time. But remember this is your life and your happiness in the balance.

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